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Wednesday 18 June 2014

Meeting wickedness (thunder)head-on

I was stuck with my France-based colleagues in a god-awful boring horrible useless netmeeting with people across the Atlantic at the end of our work day here today.

It's probably because I was (am) so desperately tired from sleeping so poorly for so many nights in succession that I've lost track of how many, but I was very wicked. After setting the stage for an emergency escape by saying that there were thunderstorms in the area (true, but my characterizing them as "severe" was a bit hyperbolic, I'll admit), I went ahead and found a youtube video of a thunderstorm and jacked up my laptop speaker to the max after quietly sampling where the best crash-and-boom was. (Thank God for mute buttons on our phone consoles, given the French-side reactions to these antics.)

The overseas colleagues were convinced. The next step was to have been playing another youtube clip that I'd found, this time of a fire alarm (which would be attributed to a short circuit caused by a lightning strike, and not to an actual fire), at which point we could all have excused ourselves because we would ostensibly have to leave the building. Safety first!

I regret that I didn't have the nerve to go ahead and click on play. As it turned out, we were already slated to give up 90 irreplaceable minutes of our lives for this wretched meeting, and yet even that was not long enough to wring out every last bit of pointlessness. Even occasionally interjecting myself into the conversation (to the amusement of one or both colleagues), just to make those in North America think that we were fully engaged instead of dying to be done with the whole business, did not really mitigate the boredom at all.

How I loathe useless meetings. Meetings generally, for that matter. Argh.

The end.

25 June addendum: Perhaps my unprofessional conduct did not go unnoticed after all: first email told the three of us that we would no longer have to attend these meetings; but the terse second (in response to my asking if the meeting convener wanted us to instead submit bi-weekly reports) seemed to make it clear that the convener was offended. Convener did not provide any opening for an apology, however, so I am waiting for one of my colleagues to make contact before I, abashed and a bit ashamed, try to make amends.

Friday 28 February 2014

Uh-oh Danny Boy

Well, that's another blog post lost to the vagaries of gandi's time-out and lack of automatic saving, goddammitall to hell.

Synopsis: Sad about not having been able to play my own arrangement of Danny Boy all the way through. Worse yet, not being able to play more than a few bars of other compositions. There's a piano here at my Grenoble landlady's, but too painfully out of tune and not in "my" part of the house to want to play it.

Should sing. Am thinking about joining a chorus here. Not that anyone much cares if I sing or not (pity party paragraph).

Parable of the talents, and mine's one of the ones that has been buried.

A nice line about ADD/OCD humming of "theme and variations beyond belief" of whatever earworm has seized my brain at any given moment. Even this has largely ceased because the asthma inhaler I use to deal with a chronic cough has adversely affected my vocal cords.

And so on.

Sigh.

Monday 17 February 2014

Watching it spin out of control

Yes, another doom-and-gloom post. Given my hand-wringing to follow, it may seem a bit hypocritical for me to fault hyper-righteous religious bigots for their hand-wringing over gay marriage, but I do so mostly because of their conviction that gays and feminists and liberals are the cause of natural disasters, which to their evangelical eyes are punishments from God for sinful permissiveness. (Let me refer you, gentle reader, to my religiously-based counter-assertion to this entire idea here.)

But still, I flatter myself that my hand-wringing has at least some basis in science, and the only judging I do is — OK, fine, I seem to end up comparing the entire human race to locusts quite a bit these days. But at least I'm not singling out vulnerable populations, right? (I do not count wealthy narcissistic over-indulgers as "vulnerable," by the way.) Anyway, while I try to confine myself to worrying about real problems stemming from real causes, I have been wrong before, and at least once rather spectacularly so (i.e., my firm belief that Y2K could possibly lead to The End of Technology… but hey, the Red Cross was grateful for the generator I donated when we moved to France the next year!).

I am an admitted catastrophile, which in addition to my hyper-religious background puts me in a reasonable position to understand several facets of the eschatological mindset, in particular how exciting and dangerously titillating the End Times can be. Yes, it is scary but also energizing to be engaged in a battle against evil, especially when people are convinced that they are fighting on the right side. And when the overarching cause is heavenly, so what if the tactics used are devilish? (The ends do indeed justify the means for so many, it seems.) Preparing for the battle is nearly as exciting as actually engaging in it!

Of course, my catastrophism is no longer religious in nature, but it is probably good that I got caught up in Y2K-ism back in the day so that I am less prone to go all-out in trying to do something about my current concerns about the many-headed manifestations of climate change. (This assumes that I can figure out exactly what makes sense to do, apart from trying to pressure lawmakers and doing my wee bit to recycle, and so on.)

This article was the impetus for this little blog entry. "Fish Out of Water" is a pretty reliable source for information about sea temperatures rising and polar ice melting, and this latest bit of documented news is… sobering. Per my comment on Fish's story, I've been watching the wind map as Ireland and the UK have been getting clobbered repeatedly by big storms. I've also taken to keeping an eye on the California Drought Monitor. Little wonder that the saints have been praying for "moisture."

Oh, I do think it's going to take more than just prayer to deal with the droughts in the western U.S. and in Australia and all (even if the saints and evangelicals repent of saying "moisture" and start praying for rain and snow in drought areas instead). My biggest concern is that there are so many people living such ordinary lives from day to day, contributing our own tiny, seemingly inconsequential bits to the overall problem, that we simply and catastrophically will not be able to act in a concerted manner as a species to stop destroying our biosphere. We seem to be crossing more and more thresholds at an accelerating pace.

I don't have answers… and even were it a good idea, we aren't in any position at present to be building and stocking our own Survival Fortress.

Sigh.

Update, 18.02.14: Science published a study (as it turns out, back in Nov. 2006!) that says that unless we change our ways now, there will be no saltwater fish left in the oceans by 2048. Why do I think we haven't changed our ways at all since then? Mon frickin' Dieu.

Sunday 2 February 2014

Praying for moisture

California has been in the grip of a huge drought for quite some time now, and today being the first Sunday of the month, "Fast Sunday,"† Mormons are being asked to pray that the drought will stop. And what have I been seeing over the interwebz? Calls for the Saints to "pray for moisture." Not for rain on the plains nor snow in the mountains, but moisture, as though California were some kind of armpit slathered with too much antiperspirant. (Which it may be in some respects, but that is not the point here.)

Mormons are not alone in believing that it takes special vocabulary to get God's attention, though they're among the last holdouts to use "thee, thy, thou" in prayer (and often not especially correctly, come to think of it; of course the Star Trek franchise bolluxed that up worse with the translation of Old High Vulcan… but I digress, I really do). Nor are they (the Mormons, not the Vulcans) alone in their predilection for employing euphemisms when (avoiding) talking about Unpleasant Things. Other denominations talk about being "called home," "passing," and "passing away" instead of dying, although I'm not so sure how many resort to the same kind of noxious death-related meme of "God needed him/her" and "s/he's serving a mission on The Other Side" that Mormons do with too-great frequency.

But back to Moisture. There seems to be up to a 60% chance of showers in parts of central and northern California today, and one can be sure that if any rain is observed at all, especially late in the day after church is over, such rainfall will be regarded by the faithful as an answer to prayers… no matter how little rain actually falls, and no matter if it does not do a damned thing to mitigate the drought. —In fact, any kind of "moisture" would be regarded as an answer, even inland fog — but again I digress, at least a little.

California needs a very, very wet February to have a prayer of having enough water to meet agricultural and other human needs, and apart from the possible showers today, there is no "moisture" in the 10-day forecast. And if this turns out to be as dry a winter as feared, despite all the prayers and pleading and church-going and all, what will the consequences be?

— I mean, apart from the actual physical consequences of water shortages, desiccated farmland, crop failure, skyrocketing food prices. Well, active Mormons seem to be as likely as winger fundamentalist evangelical Christians to believe that (semi-)natural disasters are punishments from God for sin. But what kind of sins? Willy-nilly exploitation of the planet? Overrunning the biosphere like locusts? Greed and corruption and rising, massive inequality? Mistreating the poor? Profits over people? Worshipping riches? Hypocrisy?

… No, no, no. Much easier to say that withholding Moisture is God's way of showing anger about the "immorality" of gay marriage and its as-yet still-undefined and unsupported threat to heterosexual marriage. That's certainly the biggest "sin" on the Mormon hierarchy's mind (and on the minds of evangelical leaders, too). To them, I reply with this fine cartoon by Crowden Satz (attached).

† And yes, there's a wikipedia article about this. I stand (or more accurately, sit) all amazed.

Friday 24 January 2014

Lost and found and possibly ignored

I started a blogpost some days ago about looking for — and eventually tracking down — someone I knew in Pittsburgh Days of Yore. Moreover, I recently mentioned on the Facebook old missionary page I run that I wish I could find my one truly lost comp, whom I haven't heard anything from or about for more than 30 years now.

The odds of my finding Sister H are very small, I think, and those odds are helpful for freeing me from any odd attendant feelings of obligation or guilt I might otherwise have. By contrast, as for my Pittsburgh friend, the fact that I know where she is, and where her children are (who were friends with our older children back in the day)… has not led me to contact her or them, at least not yet. And perhaps I won't ever do so.

—And it's that last possibility that I find a little disquieting (and yet surprisingly not as guilt-inducing as I'd expected). I used to be so good at maintaining relationships. I kept in touch with lots and lots of people for years. I was the one who gathered the info and produced and sent out the newsletter for the missionary song-and-dance groups I was a part of; my Christmas list was long; I always tried to see far too many people whenever I'd go out West from Parts East.

But the past few years — make that practically the past couple of decades now, I suppose — have seen a significant downward slide away from connectedness, even counting the hiccup of Facebook and all.

(I have found several old friends on Facebook and become "friends" with most, and yet… that hasn't translated into much actual communication and rarely, only rarely has it meant making the effort to get together when I am Stateside. I am nearly always willing to get together when people make the effort to let me know that they are on this side of the Atlantic, and I guess I'm always surprised, and perhaps even a little hurt, depending, when I find out that so-and-so was actually someplace nearby in France or Germany and didn't let me know they were coming. And yet that's very like how I am these days: I just don't have the time, don't have the energy, don't feel the need — or more germanely, the guilt — to try to keep up the ties I used to. —But I digress.)

It isn't that these people, these Facebook friends and others still residing in old snail-mail address books aren't important to me. I grant that some are more important than others, certainly, but I find myself neglecting even people who are still important to me (I will refrain from focusing this piece on my immediate family, which is a different story). I just don't seem to have the emotional energy, if that's what I can call it, to be as involved as I once was.

It would be nice to be able to blame social media for the fatigue, and there may be something to that, given that nearly everyone on my FB friends list is on equal footing, status-wise: I see things from mere acquaintances scrolling by as often as I see things from friends, close friends, family, close family. Obviously I should take the time to filter things better so that I don't miss anything important from those who are more important to me. (Of course, a lot of those people aren't exactly verbose when it comes to updating their statuses….)

The other factor in my fatigue, as it were, is discovering how much wider the gap is between me and so many of my old friends newly-found. I'd say more than half of those I have reconnected with are politically and religiously much farther from me than they are geographically and temporally. Yes, I care about them, at least for old times' sake and all, but omg, I do not want to see one more shared FauxNews story about the evils of Obamacare. I don't want to see yet another conserva-quote from some Iron Rod-up-the-rear GA. I don't want to be reminded that here is yet another person with whom I disagree on many, many fundamental issues…

…Especially when it didn't use to be this way. Of course, it is unquestionably I who have moved the farthest away from the Comfort Zone, and yet there has been perceptible motion right-ward for many of these old friends — even over the relatively short time I and they have been on Facebook, for crying out loud. Per my previous post, I am not really sure how safe I feel about talking to them about such things, preferring (as ever) to avoid Possible Unpleasantness (or in some instances, absolutely guaranteed unpleasantness). Is not feeling able to be open really friendship?

… I will let the question linger in the air.

So is that why I don't want to contact my old Pittsburgh friend — afraid that I will end up with yet another person in my "omg, I can't believe that she's gone off the deep end, too" list? And even if she hasn't… well. Part of me thinks I should spend what limited social energy I have in keeping up with some of the people who have been the most loyal and the most likeminded (and thus in many ways the most fun) and the most committed to being friends over the years. The relatively small number in this category ought to be manageable, and yet here I am, typing this blogpost instead of sending emails to or skyping with them as I ought. I nearly always enjoy catching up once I've done it, but as with tracting… getting started is so very hard.

Need to start knocking on those doors again: these few are not people I want to lose.

Sunday 19 January 2014

On outing myself… or not

I am the founder and administrator of a facebook group for missionaries who served under the same mission president Mr Mo and I did back in the day. Pres. & Sister A were lovely people, and I was always glad to have the chance to stop and visit them on those rare occasions when I would be in Salt Lake City. Sentimental soul that I am, I have also founded other mormon church-related FB groups as well… but not because I'm still a believer.

Anyway, last night a relative newbie to the missionary alumni group posted this question: "So 30+ years on, I'm wondering how many of you guys are still practicing LDS?" Uh-oh, thinks I, here is a loaded question, and right off the bat, I correctly guessed that the asker, we'll call him Guy, was no longer a practicing member himself (actually, no longer a member at all, but I'm getting ahead of myself a bit). Various people responded, most of whom are still active mormons. Then finally an inactive or ex-mo alumnus piped up, at which point Guy chimed in and said that he no longer believed … and further, gave a short laundry list of reasons why.

This started a flurry of generally quite respectful back-and-forth. When one alum — "Andy," a fellow with whom I have locked horns quite a few times in the past in various listserv venues — when he contributed his two bits, once again I thought uh-oh, given Andy's propensity for sinking into contention and nastiness. So I monitored the discussion closely and finally invoked my administrative privileges and asked them all to take it off-line, as I didn't want it to become unpleasant and besides, the alumni group was not the right venue for that type of conversation.

Mr Mo noticed that during the course of the thread, which went on to about 90 comments, I managed to sidestep the original question entirely. Well, yes, I did, although I surprised myself at how very tempted I was to out myself as being among the "inactive" — more tempted, in fact, than ever before when similar opportunities have arisen.

I am, in fact, "out" on the Feminist Mormon Housewives FB page. So why not more out, or all the way out, in all of these venues? Why not tell these old friends and acquaintances that I've never attended any mormon church service while living here in Europe, not even one, and that I can count on my fingers the number of times I've been to church in the U.S. since I stopped going in (iirc) early 1996? While there's no particular reason for me to feel the need to bring up the subject myself, why not take advantage of appropriate openings to let my status and feelings be known?

Well… it's complicated. A significant chunk is my not wanting to give Arschlöcher like "Andy" any satisfaction. Here's a man who is about the worst online ambassador for the mormon church imaginable: contemptuous, self-righteous, sarcastic, nasty … and he's been that way at least since he was a missionary. Most if not all of his companions detested him, and little wonder. He is also a rabid right-winger, and his political posts and comments are as puerile as his religious ones; his FB feed is filled with the worst of the dreck about Democrats, Obama, liberals, and so on. He would happily hold me up as a liberal who had gone astray — and assert that progressive values and apostasy are two sides of the same coin.

So there's that. But why should I care about that sort of thing? And why should I care what kinds of conclusions my winger acquaintances might draw from the not-wholly-without-at-least-some-foundation connection between my politics and my (lack of) religion?

Enter projection. For better or worse (and landing more and more on the worse side as time goes on), I know exactly how people like my old comp Nina would feel if she knew I have "gone astray." Bad enough that I am/we are in my parents' prayers, and probably those of my practicing sibs and all, but I don't want my church status to be in anyone else's Thoughts and Prayers, too. And god forbid that I become some kind of project along these lines… which is certainly something Nina might pursue.

I don't have any desire to debate or discuss church matters on a personal level, really. For one thing, unlike "Guy," I don't have any particular desire to bring up all of the factoid-based reasons for leaving; and unlike Guy, I've done all the proselytizing I'd ever care to do, thanks very much, and if I want to convert people to something, I think there are political and social issues that are far more important.

—Which brings me to another reason: I frankly think that keeping my status unknown (OK, not saying anything that would induce people to realize I'm no longer active) helps my "cred" a little bit in the political arena. I have plenty of experience with my family to know full well that anything I say about political or social issues is immediately discounted because of my "inactive" status and/or "apostate" views. I think it is easier to talk about issues when one is perceived of as being on the same level or page. I think I've occasionally gotten through to people like Nina about some things that I otherwise would not have had I been pegged as an apostate. (As it is, I'm sure a fair bit of my liberal views are being blamed on my living in Europe… and that isn't even especially incorrect, come to think of it.)

Is it less than honest to know that people assume I'm active when I'm not? To sidestep precisely with the aim of keeping my cover? Well… gosh, what can I say? My initial response is — meh.

If I felt strongly that I needed to pull people out of mormondom (and if I didn't think the internet was doing a pretty good job at that already), I guess I'd be more open about my unbelief and the reasons for it. As it is, I'm pretty "live and let live"… up to a point. And maybe I'm approaching that point. But I'm not quite there yet — not quite ready to overcome this particular "sin of omission."

Update, 20/01, 10h00: Well, sure enough, "Andy" couldn't resist his baser nature and posted a comment full of insults and invective… which I deleted and then officially closed the thread (meaning that I would no longer allow comments to be added). To which Andy responded with yet another comment directed at Mean Me… which also got deleted, and led to the entire thread getting deleted… and to "Andy" quitting the missionary group. Good riddance. Arschloch.

Saturday 18 January 2014

Change and decay in all around I see

Today Mr Mo and I went to the remains of the Children's and Maternity Hospital complex, founded in 1908, and located not very far from where I used to have my art studio in Weißensee (just two stops farther on the M4 tram line). It was… well, seems like it would be hard to restore much if any of it: there have been numerous fires in most if not all of the several buildings on the campus, some quite serious, and the holes in the roofs and resulting rain damage have led to ceilings caving in and all kinds of rot. I was pretty nervous about scuttling through a couple of corridors, and was glad not to have had any plaster or worse drop down from above.

Of course, the buildings have been stripped bare of anything even remotely of value or useful, including copper wire. Only a few window panes in one of the buildings hadn't been broken, but for the rest — all of the interior windows (for observation, nursing stations, and so on) were thoroughly smashed. What few fixtures had been left behind at the facility's closure in 1997 — by this I largely mean sinks and toilets — had nearly all been broken to bits. The graffiti was endless and of varying quality. Most doors were off their hinges, and those on the floor were in many instances spongy underfoot.

—And speaking of feet, we came across a surprising number of shoes. I understand, perhaps, the artistic statement that the ginormous pair of new-looking high heels left in a mostly inaccessible place might have been intended to make, but for the rest — gee. With so much broken glass everywhere, and I mean everywhere, seems to me that one would not knowingly abandon one's footware. Stoned? Drunk? Who knows. Very mysterious.

—As were most of the rooms we visited. Very few indications as to their functions, though I was pretty convinced that one of the rooms we saw had been an operating theater. The patients' rooms were fairly obvious, I think… but for the rest, no clue.

Evidence of now- (and perhaps long-)departed squatters was everywhere: filthy blankets and clothes, but surprisingly very little "current trash." It didn't seem to me that it's been used very much as a shelter in recent times — leaky, burnt-out roofs and no windows kind of limit its possibilities along those lines, I guess. When we first arrived, we saw some people in the upper floor of what must have been the hospital's dairy barn (converted to other uses after the cows went away in 1920) — but later it was clear that they were there to do some kind of photo shoot. I didn't see anyone that looked at all like they lived there, but there were several people who, like us, had come to explore. Today was a sunny day, if quite cold, and given the dreary forecast for the coming week, visiting this nearby place made for a fine winter's outing.

I was surprised to learn from the Abandoned Berlin entry linked above that the last addition to the hospital had been in 1987. How strange to me that it was closed down only ten years later and so thoroughly abandoned. I recognize that the birthrate has fallen, but still. And I recognize that Berlin — East Berlin in particular — had a great many more immediately urgent kinds of projects to deal with after the fall of the Wall, but there's something sad and almost criminal that this facility was left to the vandals instead of sensibly repurposed.

Friday 17 January 2014

I've been lucky

My principal facebook hangout group these days is Feminist Mormon Housewives, and scarcely a day goes by when someone, and often more than one person, relates how she was abused — physically or sexually or emotionally or all at once, or… or… and often by a family member, often by a parent, sometimes by a spouse.

It was the same during Midwest Pilgrims and Exponent II retreats: so many women told of their suffering betrayal and hurt and grief and violence. Being LDS doesn't seem to prevent abuse: it seems to happen among the saints at the same rate as elsewhere (and in fact, authoritarian groups such as LDS, Inc. and evangelical churches have a somewhat higher rate of abuse than other populations). I found it all mind-boggling when I first started hearing women's stories. While I guess I've come to expect such revelations when such topics are raised, the number of women who have lived through awful childhoods still astonishes me.

—And makes me grateful that I had such a normal childhood, a normal family. I got spanked, yes, and sometimes even with a belt (and in retrospect, I think it was pretty unfair of my mom — unfair mostly to my dad — to have resorted to the threat of "wait till your father gets home"), but I was never sexually abused, never beaten, never a victim of gross negligence. Surprising how rare "normality" has turned out to be among the friends of my youth.

The cycle of violence and abuse is tough to deal with. Far too many parents end up parenting according to the way they were brought up, though of course there are variations and differences, and with a lot of effort, there can be many deliberate differences. For example, my mom's parents quarreled and bickered endlessly, to the point where she was too embarrassed to ever have friends over. (And even as a small child, I did not like going over to grandma and grandpa's for that reason.) My mom was absolutely determined that she and my father would not act like that in front of us kids, and they did not. I rarely saw them disagree, and never saw them fight at all.

But there was and still is a little bit of a mean streak, I guess, in my mom. I think of how she would call my sister "the pimple farm"… to her face. I can't imagine saying something like that to anyone, much less a child of mine. —That said, Lord knows I yelled and said many things that must have scared or wounded my children, particularly when I was battling depression (sleeplessness and irritability, that was me). — Indeed, if I could go back and have a do-over, I'd yell less… and hug more. I came from a fairly undemonstrative family: although my parents — my dad in particular — were lovey-dovey with one another, we did not hug much or kiss much or cuddle or snuggle.

I wanted to be a more demonstrative mom than my mom, but I didn't succeed at that, I very much regret to say. So yeah — less yelling, more hugging, that's what I'd do if I could turn the clock back.

But to return to the original thought: I'm lucky to have grown up with good parents. Thanks, mom and dad.

Wednesday 15 January 2014

Pulling down the Darth entry

Well, I just unpublished my little "dirge for Darth" piece, as I find it unworthy in several ways. As it is now a bit later than I wish it were, and I'm plumb out of ideas at this hour, I will not be putting up anything else today. I take some consolation in the thought that I published a few of my old Mormon Women's Forum pieces over on nonlynnear this afternoon, and that will simply have to do.

"This is a stub"… indeed.

Tuesday 14 January 2014

Pack books, send books

Riffing off of this story in the Deseret News about sister missionaries surviving Typhoon Haiyan: My most dangerous mission moment (apart from LTM stuff†) happened in Metz, France, during January 1978. It was P-day (preparation day — essentially our day off, when we would go to the laundromat and grocery shopping and such); Sister Blue and I had gone to Auchan, a big "hypermarché" a fair ways from our apartment in Borny, but still walkable. At least a good foot of snow was on the ground; I don't remember if the buses were running or not, but even if they were, we decided to walk back to the apartment with our groceries.

It was damned cold — quite possibly the coldest day of the coldest winter in my lifetime to that point. About half-way to our apartment, I remember coming to the harebrained conclusion that it might be fun to freak out Sister B (an ER nurse) by pretending to be suffering from hypothermia, so I sat down in the snow. But apparently I wasn't really pretending. She got me up and going again and we made it back to our place with our groceries… and then the fun began: my fingers were half-frozen and I needed to thaw them out by holding them under tepid running water.

This hurt like bloody hell, and I screamed a fair bit. Fortunately, the ordeal was over fairly quickly and I suffered no lasting damage. But I wonder what Sister B would have done if she hadn't been able to nag and cajole me to get up out of the snow and keep moving. We were in the middle of a frickin' frozen field, and it would have taken a good 10 minutes or so for her to have gotten anywhere to find help.

My other possibly dangerous situation occurred up north in Lille: my tiny comp, Sister Charette, and I (when I weighed all of 103 lbs /47 kg max, which was still heavier than Sister C) were on our bikes heading back to our high-rise apartment building. When we got to the building garage driveway, we realized that a car had been following us. We entered the garage — and to our dismay, the car followed us in. We managed to stash our bikes in the missionary stall and dashed for the door before whoever it was could get out of their car and come after us. Very unnerving. Maybe the person(s) just wanted to freak us out — which they certainly succeeded at doing, if that was their goal… but maybe their intentions were more serious than that. On the other hand, maybe they just happened to live in the same building (a thought which did not occur to us at the time, and only occurred to me now). Regardless, we were on edge for days afterwards.

My missionary dangers obviously totally pale in comparison to what the sisters experienced in the typhoon. Of all the things in the article, what surprised me the most is that the "lead sister" in the story apparently first learned about the pending hurricane from a local, rather than being contacted directly by someone in the mission.

In my day, we missionaries didn't have the internet nor even good access to telephones. If Something Bad was going to happen, the mission home was supposed to send us a coded telegram: "Pack books" meant to hunker down in one's apartment, get ready to go, and await further instructions; "send books" meant flee — I assume to the mission home? — That is Mr Mo's assumption as well. But seems to me that heading to the mission home from the far corners of our mission could have been a very dangerous endeavor, depending on the nature of the emergency. And as ATMs had not been invented yet, if one was short on cash, getting anywhere could present a problem. (We were supposed to keep enough emergency cash on hand for such contingencies, but I'm sure I'm not the only one whose monthly allowance barely covered even my basic living expenses….)

I'm told these days that various missions (perhaps all of them?) have asked the local units to set up safe houses for the missionaries in their area… and I guess such safe houses would be meant as gathering points (and hopefully shelter) during natural disasters as well as civil disorder. Given today's technology, it seems quite likely that some missionaries might know about impending doom long before the leadership. (Which may also be true in terms of the long-term impact of the internet on the church's truth claims as well. "Pack books," indeed.)

† There was at least one horrible moment at the LTM when it was nothing short of miraculous that I didn't try to kill myself. Yes, I felt that wretchedly bad: never underestimate the power of a perfectionist nature coupled with impossible expectations to wreak havoc on one's self-esteem and desire to live. (Did I mention that I was chronically constipated the entire time I was there? Oh, yes, I did… and again, little wonder. "Send books," indeed.)

Monday 13 January 2014

That odd little 3x5 card entry

I've been decoding and transferring various jots and tittles that I wrote down on a small stack of 3x5 cards during my mission, mostly while I was at the Language Training Mission (LTM; this turned into the MTC — Missionary Training Center — in the fall of 1978, when I was serving in northeastern France). Anyway, one can well imagine that most of my notes were of the various LTM sacrament meeting talks, Sunday School or Relief Society lessons, or of LTM or BYU devotionals and firesides featuring various general authorities at the time. Most of these notes are in everyday English… but some are written using the phonetic Deseret alphabet.

I used the Deseret alphabet whenever I interjected a personal observation, indulged in (hyper-)religious breast-beating about my sins (both real and imagined or at least exaggerated in the rarified atmosphere of the LTM)… and when I was angry or upset or puzzled about something or someone (as illustrated in a previous blog post). As ever, writing in Deseret was a whole lot easier than decoding it (especially some 35+ years after the fact).

I came across one such (blessedly very short) note in Deseret the other day, to wit:

Dec. 11, 1977 — O Tristan Wood — come back and serve your mission.

Tristan (not his real name) was a young man in my home ward, a couple of years younger than I (in keeping with the age requirements/restrictions of the time: he would have been 19-ish, and I was 21.5 years old). I frankly do not remember the precise circumstances which would have led me to write this little plaintive private and unsent plea, but obviously Tristan went home. Did my mom write to tell me about it? Did someone else? I had entered the LTM on December 1st; had Tristan already been in the LTM for some time, or had he just arrived as well? Why did he go home? "Unrepented sins"? Homesickness?

No matter the reason, his leaving the LTM and going home would have been a big shock to our congregation ("ward" in Mormon parlance) … and doubtless to his parents in particular. There was (and still is) scarcely a greater disgrace for a young Mormon than going on a mission and getting sent home early (or in some instances deserting). And certainly the social stigma of going home early — even for completely legitimate reasons (health, significant family problems, etc.) — is shamefully still alive and well among the saints.

Well, whatever Tristan's reasons for going home… I can willingly wager that he ultimately went back out and served his mission. Why? Because he's now a stake president, and it seems pretty unlikely to me that that would be the case if he'd gone home and stayed home thereafter. (I could be wrong, but I think institutional forgiveness goes only so far.)

And this all said, I am still rather surprised that he is a stake president, given that he works for one of those awful vulture payday loan companies (which have legally bribed — I mean, donated tens of thousands of dollars to prop up politicians and legislation that will keep them as unregulated as can be in the Beehive State, among other places). It's… a little hard for my brain to reconcile Tristan's profession with his church job, but truly, "God works in mysterious ways" (insert eye-roll here).

Sunday 12 January 2014

Geh mawwiage

In a previous post, I said that the Mormon church had already done things in the political arena (to say nothing of things in other arenas) that to my mind have fully merited my resigning… were it not for my decision to wait until my parents have departed from this mortal realm. (Note poetic euphemism. We do like our euphemisms! — But I digress.)

One such set of actions and policies has to do with gay marriage. This past month has been a humdinger: a federal judge ruled that Utah's Amendment 3 to its state constitution — which categorically defines marriage as consisting of a man and a woman (ironic indeed for the former? polygamy capital of the western world) — was unconstitutional. About 1,300 gay couples went and got married, some more easily than others (I'm frankly surprised that there wasn't even more ass-holiness among the county clerks, quite honestly, but shame on those deceitful few!). Utah asked for a stay, which was ultimately granted… meaning that the marriages have stopped until such time as the Supreme Court will consider the matter, which probably won't be this year.

Then Governor Herbert — the same "moral" guy who secretly sold the Utah voter registration lists to various parties (after removing his own name and info, of course) — declared that Utah would not honor the marriages that it had legally performed for these gay couples, throwing those couples and their families once more into limbo. The US DOJ announced that these marriages would, in fact, be recognized at the federal level… and so what we have is a mess.

The Mormon church has indicated that it will not file an amicus brief.† Publicity ploy? Maybe — oh, hell, sure. The church leadership has made its position crystal-clear that gay marriage is an Awful Thing… apparently far more awful than so many true moral issues and outrages that I can scarcely begin to list them all (income inequality, environmental degradation, etc.; kiwimormon's post sums it up well). On these overarching issues — any one of which has an unquestionably deleterious impact on human life and happiness — the church is as silent as the tomb. Its "moral leadership," if it can be called such, seems to hover exclusively around issues of human sexuality, and indeed, the church has strained at this gnat for my entire life, for the most part ignoring far weightier questions about moral behavior.

Assuming the biosphere endures long enough, I think it is possible that LDS, Inc., will ultimately come to accept gay marriage… at least civilly. It's been painting itself into a tighter and tighter corner about the eternal implications, what with its reliance on the ridiculous Crock-Proc (Proclamation on the Family — "the next best thing to genuine revelation!"). So while I don't believe there is any real "eternal" reason to refuse a temple marriage to a gay couple, I don't see that happening anytime soon. (I hesitate to say "not in my lifetime," but… well.) (I have lots of things I could say about temple marriage and the whole notion of "sealings" in general, but I'll forebear at the moment.)

I fault the church because of the fundamental dishonesty with which it has conducted itself during the entire period of the gay rights movement (up to and including gay marriage). It has secretly funded groups which have and has itself disseminated lies and misinformation and has pandered to the very worst elements in society. It has cuddled up with bigots and cheats… some of whom (of the evangelical persuasion in particular) were and are more than happy to take every bit of support from LDS, Inc. … until the time when they, the faux-Christians, have the opportunity to turn their hateful efforts to annihilating the mormons — the cult they so despise.

I fault the church because of its doctrinal inconsistency, for its apparent inability to distinguish between inspiration and conservative political thought and tactics, and its for its willingness to let members believe that its leaders are receiving revelation from God when none has been forthcoming. I fault it because so many of its decisions in this area (and in far too many others) seem to have been made with utterly no consideration of that well-worn cliché, "what would Jesus do?" Instead, the church and its conservative U.S. members are working hard to portray themselves as victims. Grüß Gott.

Meanwhile, the newly-married gay couples are once again experiencing fear and uncertainty and blatant discrimination. Were it really and truly the church of Jesus Christ, the church (a) would never have opposed gay marriage in the first place (which might have rendered point "b" moot), and (b) would put pressure on the state to do the right thing by its gay constituents, rather than wasting millions on appeals that will only delay the time when justice and fairness will prevail.

It all makes me sad and ashamed. Maybe a bit of reconsideration is in order.

Update, Feb. 8: Apparently the church lied (quelle surprise) and has filed an amicus brief anyway.

Saturday 11 January 2014

Water-free West Virginia

Three hundred thousand people across nine counties in near Charleston, including Charleston itself, are without water due to chemical contamination of the water supply (the Elk River). From a practical and logistical standpoint, the biggest problem is that this contamination is such that even boiling the water won't do any good. All it can be used for is flushing toilets — not drinking, not showering, not laundry.

FEMA has trucked in 1 million liters of h2o so far… not even a gallon per person affected. This problem is bigger than what all but the most food-storage-conscious family *might* be able to handle (on a short-term basis).

To me, the worst part of the whole mess is that the coal-processing chemical company where the leak originated didn't even bother to notify WVa's water authority… it was discovered after the authority fielded complaints from people downstream. Unknown how long the leak's been happening and how many people (including unborn children) this may affect. Moreover, it's still unknown at present exactly how long it's going to take before people will have access to clean water again. Here's hoping it will be soon. And I hope the company pays the costs for trucking in water and is fined up the wazoo for negligence.

Of course, all this reminds me of my little Y2K water-storage fiasco. (No, one really cannot just stack gallon bottles of water on top of one another. Let's just leave it at that.)

I occasionally play The Survival Game in my head: which room of our Berlin flat or of our row house in Quinson would be most defensible? How long could we subsist on what we have? What of water, power, and sewer? … And so on. I'm afraid we're not very well-positioned for a zombie apocalypse, especially if the city/village grid and other infrastructure on which we so heavily rely goes off-line, as it surely would eventually.

With all of the dire climate change reports of late, the question of food and water is insinuating itself into my consciousness a little bit, but no, we're not in any real shape to do anything about stocking up, even if there are arguments for doing so. I can't see us doing a Y2K-like prep again even if we had the money. Nor do I want to follow in my youngest brother's fanatical footsteps. (To me, one significant earthquake and/or landslide, or worse yet, a wildfire, would impact all his preparations vs. The Marauding Hordes or whatever he's envisioning as the enemy he's fortifying his property against. Ah well.)

I am genuinely puzzled about what makes sense to do to prepare for the coming lean years during this time of only slightly waning fat years. It will be the third-world and then second-world countries that will first feel the brunt of crop and water failures. In past times, famine and drought (and yes, warfare, of course warfare) were catalysts for huge waves of migration. Not clear to me how "civilized" first-world countries will respond to even greater numbers and bigger waves. It will not be pretty (it never is). On verra. "Enjoy it while it lasts" (assuming that "it" is a first-world lifestyle).

…But it really seems like there ought to be something more one could do about at least some aspect of it. Hmm.

Update, Feb. 8: Nearly a full month later, the hapless 300,000 are still without potable water, with no end to the misery in sight. Their governor insists that no new regulations are necessary. Uh-huh, riiiight.

Friday 10 January 2014

Coming or going? (Mormons as Ugly Americans, and so on.)

When I'm on facebook these days — and I'm on much more than I should be — I hang out a bit on the Feminist Mormon Housewives page… with occasional forays onto The Mormon Hub and Mormon Liberals pages, too. (Yeah, fine, I'm still a junkie that way.) Unsurprisingly, I come across quite a few people who are grappling with their faith, trying to reconcile all of the same kinds of things that Mr Mo and I tried for years to reconcile about the church and logic and morality and all… until we finally couldn't stand the cognitive dissonance anymore and stopped going.

We are nonetheless still Members of Record. But just before Christmas, while I was whiling away the time on facebook, a message window popped up from a dear old friend of mine from Pittsburgh days, and lo! She wanted me to read her letter of resignation — having decided that as of 2014, she was not going to be mormon anymore.

Though I was a little surprised at the "out of the blue"-ness of the experience, I wasn't particularly surprised at her decision. — On the contrary, I'm kind of surprised that it hadn't happened earlier. Moreover, I'm a little surprised that she would be the one to leave first, given that her family has treated her… decently, despite her apostasy and all, whereas her husband's family (parents — or at least father in particular, I mean) have been just beastly towards him.

Old Friend and I chatted a little bit and I told her that I am waiting until my folks (and possibly my in-laws, too) shuffle off their mortal coils before I take that final step — one that codifies my complete disaffection, as it were. (And note: disaffection does not, and probably never will, equate to a lack of interest in Things Mormon. But my basic relationship to the church has long since shifted to a place that formal resignation will not materially affect… and I suspect I may wait for a dramatic moment to resign as a gesture of protest over yet some other new major outrageous thing LDS, Inc., does in the political arena. God knows, however, that there have been plenty of such moments over the past several years that have more than merited my resignation!)

Anyway, I am waiting. Given longevity, I may have a while to wait (and that's fine with me: I love my folks and wish them long life and good health, despite all of our serious political and religious differences). But I sure understand the impulse to officially sever all ties to the institution.

… Which brings me to the "Ugly American" part of this post. I talked to another friend of mine last night, my job broker, who has only recently discovered that she was baptized mormon… but obviously her family was never, ever active. Further, her family (parents, sibs, etc.) seem to be about as emotionally dysfunctional as it is possible to be, and she has had to cut ties with them for all kinds of reasons, not the least of which is saving her own sanity. This said, the last family tie to get cut loose happened over Christmas, and involved a cousin's family living temporarily in SW Germany. Turns out that this family is openly mormon and very conservative; and yet despite knowing this, my friend voluntarily walked into a nest of criticism and judgment and sexism and condescension and just the very worst of mormon-ness (or any hypocritical pharisaical religiosity) as can be. My friend's son was confused by their (mostly the husband's) bad behavior, asking her, "Aren't they supposed to be Christians?"

Ick. But to top it off, the cousin's husband was a complete arschloch as an American expat: dissing Germany and Germans and showing nothing but contempt for the country. That attitude was prevalent in the all-American mormon xmas party to which my friend was invited (and ended up being judged and pitied by The Righteous): America is the Promised Land, which means that all other lands are inferior and the inhabitants thereof are not as worthy, etc.

…Which put me in mind of the mormon lady in Grenoble. She was the Relief Society president of the English-speaking branch during the time when I almost met her — we talked on the phone a couple of times, she left a couple of paper plates of overly-sweet cookies hanging from my gate, but we never met face to face. More important than her church position, however, was her position as president of Open House, an association for English-speaking expats. When I showed up in Grenoble, I had my choice — I could join Open House or AVF (Accueil des Villes Françaises— the French welcome wagon)… probably could have joined both, I guess, but I decided against Open House very quickly, as the members I met outside the Hydropower Elementary School (oh, just do the damned translation yourselves, people! — trying to preserve a tiny bit of anonymity here!) — anyway, the Open House moms stood around and bitched about Life in France. Constantly.

So I joined AVF. Turns out that the Relief Society/Open House president absolutely hated living in France. She lived there for upwards of seven years (maybe longer) and hated every minute of it, couldn't wait to go "home." And her hatred thereof certainly contributed to the piss-poor attitude of the members of Open House that I met during my early days in Meylan. (The leadership of Open House changed when this sour woman left, of course, and now I hear Open House is much better about helping its members integrate into local life, instead of insulating them from it and their French neighbors.)

Ugly Americanism is not at all unique to mormons, of course, and there are plenty of mormons who live abroad and get integrated nicely and all (and sometimes do so without having any real kind of proselytizing goal in mind, imagine that!)… but given the rabid conservatism that is rampant among such a large percentage of active members of the mormon church, and given that "America is the Best at Everything, facts be damned" is a central right-wing tenet… well, little wonder at the shameful and closed-minded and completely ungracious behavior that my job broker (and child) witnessed at Christmas.

Job broker, by the way, wants me to tell her when I finally do "sign out"… and she'll do so at the same time.

Thursday 9 January 2014

How I've missed you, Franconia Notch

Or perhaps not, though you seem like you must have been a nice place to visit. Among the nuggets in the latest minor paper shuffling-recording-tossing expedition was an entrance ticket to walk The Flume gorge, part of Franconia Notch State Park in New Hampshire, which we apparently saw on October 13, 1996, beginning at approximately 3 in the afternoon.

Photos of the site look vaguely familiar, and I expect we took plenty of photos of our own, despite our still being so overwhelmingly hamstrung by the use of an analog film camera and all.

Franconia was also the site of the Old Man of the Mountain, a.k.a. The Great Stone Face… before its geological demise on May 3, 2003. I expect we have a couple of photos of it, too.

I do not recall if this was the same trip during which I went rock collecting, family reluctantly in tow — more digging amongst the papers may yet reveal tell-tale motel receipts or even an entrance ticket to the quarry in question.

Is my life better for having been reminded of having seen these places? Yes, infinitely, I'm sure.

Wednesday 8 January 2014

Beehive, Mia Maid, Laurel

I have related in various more-or-less public forums the True Story about marching into the bishop's office when I turned 12 and demanding that he make me a deacon. Less known is how not too long thereafter, I marched into the same bishop's office to demand that the name "Beehive" be changed to something less stupid.

I was a Beehive, as still are all 12- and 13-year-old active Mormon girls. According to LDS Inc. (I mean, lds.org), "the beehive was a symbol of harmony, cooperation, and work for the early pioneers of the Church. Beehive was also the first name by which young women were known. Beehives today learn to work together in cooperation and harmony as they strengthen their faith…" Um, OK, but it's still stupid. However, what I want to relate is how much I liked my Beehive teacher Carol, and… how apparently terrified she was of me at the beginning. This was her first real calling in our ward, and possibly her first real calling ever as a relatively new convert, and she was supposed to deal with know-it-all and highly opinionated me? But we became good friends and went to the "Know Your Religion" lecture series together and had deep discussions and all. I wrote to her while she was on her mission to Chile … and receiving back the letters I sent her (illustrated! augmented with humorous doggerel!) was a valuable gift to me. I saw Carol in 2012 while visiting my folks… but more on that another time.

Mia Maid as a 14- and 15-year-old… well, at least it's singular. Mia (pronounced like "Maya") came from MIA — Mutual Improvement Association, which is what the program was called when I was a Beehive, I think. (What to call the youth programs became something of an issue to Salt Lake, given the various permutations over the years — APYW, APYW MIA, Young Women — current name… and Aaronic Priesthood. —Insert major eye-roll here. Oh well.) I didn't like Mia Maids nearly as well, partly because of the teacher(s) who totally emphasized a lot of girly-girl things. I cannot say I wasn't interested in certain aspects of the various dating-related lessons, but I was not especially cooperative and I am sure I gave the teachers, Judy in particular, a fair bit of grief. (I was also a pretty awful home teachee during this time.)

This was also a time of Chastity Nights and chewed-gum analogies, something which I will expand on some other time. But it all struck me as perfectly normal and right when I was living through it, despite how much it makes me cringe today.

I never was really a Laurel (16- & 17-year-olds, and now we're back to yet another weird name), which at the time I kind of regretted because the teacher (Toni) was someone I admired and everyone, my sister included, had really loved her as a teacher. But not long after I turned 16, I joined the So. Calif. Mormon Choir, which held its rehearsals on Wednesday evenings — the same night as APYW-bla-bla. I tried going to the other ward's Laurel class, but there was already not a whole lot of love lost between the kids in T ward and R3 ward to begin with (fierce high school rivalries didn't help matters), and I didn't enjoy it at all. So I stopped going, and thankfully neither my parents nor anyone at church hassled me about it.

This all said, I mostly enjoyed my time in APYW, in large measure because of the YW leaders. I don't know who was in charge of what, but I remember specific people spearheading specific activities. There was Ruth ("Mama Gort" of "Gort's Warts" — where the "gort" came from, I do not know), who ferried us to our church ball games. There was Linda E, who at one point also was the coach of our basketball (and possibly also volleyball?) team(s). I don't recall that she did a whole lot of coaching per se, but she stuffed us all into her souped up Rambler and took us to and from the games. (When I say "souped-up Rambler," I mean that her husband had put some kind of turbo-charged V8 engine into the thing, and it was her rather odd husband and Linda's delight to challenge all comers to drag race. Seriously.)

There was Bee, married to… well, he was an inconsiderate and self-centered twit back then, and while he's now apparently quite wealthy, he's still a twit (of an extreme winger variety) — anyway, in between popping out quite a few babies, Bee led the YW, assisted by her sister-in-law Dee (sister of the twit). Dee was crazy funny, crazy energetic, also married to something of a twit, also popping out babies (Bee and Dee lived in the same subsidized housing for the first several years). Dee at least, and maybe Bee as well, accompanied us to at least one girls' camp outing at Mud Flats (my favorite activity amidst huge boredom — girls' camp was a poor substitute for Girl Scouts: rolling dried cow pies down into the arroyo; no joke). I have a vivid memory of Dee driving one car (Val's VW beetle?) and Bee? driving another: we are roaring down the highway (14? 395?) and the cars are side by side trying to get close enough to pass strawberry twizzlers from one vehicle to the other. The insane exchange was a success (just staying alive was a success). Maniacal laughter all around.

I went off to college and not long thereafter came the bit o' news that Dee, after she and her husband took in a woman in her 20s who had no place to go (I don't recall all of the details)… well, Dee left her husband and ran off with the woman. (I don't know where or with whom the kiddies ended up at that juncture, though ultimately they ended up with Dee). For all I know, Dee and this woman are still together. I do know that Dee lives in Salt Lake, and so I wonder if she and the woman got married during the recent all-too-brief window when it was possible to do so. Update: Yes, they seem to still be together; marital status: unknown.

I also know that her twit brother does not think very highly of her, though there was at least a bit of reconciliation over the years (conceivably now blown to smithereens over gay marriage in Utah).

Given what a Righteous Creature I was when Dee knew me, I imagine she would view any communication from me with great suspicion. But it would be interesting indeed to see what all happened to her over the years. As indeed it would be to chat with some of the other folks. Of the various personalities I knew among the women leaders/teachers during my day, the only one I've well and truly lost track of is Linda of Rambler fame. Maybe I'll look a little harder for her. I wonder what I will find.

Tuesday 7 January 2014

Assistants. Hmm.

Mom told me that Dad has now trained someone to take his place doing the books at the free clinic. I have very mixed feelings about this. Dad is 85 and has been feeling his age for some time now, but going to the clinic to do the books several times a week has given him a real purpose for getting out of the house on a regular basis and staying active in his area of expertise. Not sure what will take its place now, and I fear this may lead to a real decline soon. Staying on the board and going in every quarter to look things over will be quite a change from his routine of well more than a decade now.

This puts me in mind of when Frederick Davis, the founding director of the So. Calif. Mormon Choir, was forcibly retired. He'd resisted taking on an assistant conductor for years, but after one particularly close call — he barely made it on time to a concert — the choir board insisted. So fine, he ended up with the very ambitious Brother RF as the assistant (of course, having a woman lead the entire choir — women having occasionally led all-women numbers — was unthinkable in the patriarchal musical scheme of things — but I digress). Anyway, it wasn't long after RF was appointed that a long-time whisper campaign of complaining seemed to escalate exponentially.

Now, it is true that Fred's hearing wasn't what it used to be and sometimes it seemed that he wasn't catching the choir singing off-key the way he used to when he was younger, but he was still a fine showman and musician. But once the campaign "took off," a lot of untoward behind-the-scenes machinations were set in place, and ultimately Fred was induced to resign. I sang in the Choir at his last performance of Handel's Messiah in the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion in December 1981, after which concert he was presented with a plaque and applauded and so on.

It was downright sickening how he'd been railroaded. (Kind of like "Kathleen Lindt" in my book about MML's alter-ego, "L2M," was forced out and then voted an honorary VP post on the board, which of course she turned down.) I tried singing under RF, but after a couple of rehearsals, I was done. Fortunately, I was getting married and had a good excuse for no longer participating. (I'd known RF and his wife for a long time — before I joined the Choir, even — and I couldn't be 100% sure how much of a hand in Fred's treatment he/they'd had, though I suspected… quite a bit. Better to leave gracefully.)

I cannot say that Fred declined fast afterwards, and perhaps I and others of his fans were more heartbroken and outraged than he was. In fact, it wasn't until his wife died some years later than he went downhill — essentially stopped eating. When I went to interview him, he was thin as a rail… took me to lunch and had only a small bowl of soup. He was still mostly intact at that point, but he died not too long thereafter. I was by then living abroad and could not go to his funeral; I wish I knew that his memorabilia and recordings and other musical effects were handled properly, but… I rather doubt it, alas.

Well. My dad has other things he can do to occupy his time, yes, but external expectations provide greater incentive to action than a personal to-do list (as I know too well). Here's hoping that he — and we — will not come to regret his stepping down from a position that he has filled expertly and honorably these many years.

Monday 6 January 2014

"Berlin at Midnight" (well, OK, at 9:46 pm)

Just watched Woody Allen's "Paris at Midnight." I found several things fairly annoying, but I enjoyed the overall premise. Whom would I want to go back in time to meet? What time period would I want to visit?

Dunno. I am fascinated by World War II, yes, but I don't think I'd like to live in, say, Berlin during the run-up to the war. Nor in London or Paris, particularly if I retained the knowledge of what was going to happen. And further, watching "Foyle's War" of late has served to underscore the sad fact that there were indeed some very unseemly sides to "the greatest generation."

(Aside: I am feeling a bit more understanding now that the initial surprise has worn off the discovery that my dad didn't get into the Navy until well after WWII was over — in fairness, he tried to sign up for the Army on his 17th birthday, all of two weeks before V-J day, but was rejected because of elevated albumin levels in his urine. Still, learning that he ultimately got accepted to the Navy by getting someone to pee for him, and that his motivation had a great deal to do with cashing in on the benefits of the GI bill… well. Part of me thought, and in all honesty still thinks… that his cashing in alongside people who actually risked their lives… casts his pragmatism in a disillusioning light for me. Ah well. He was born a bit too late. He served his time, unlike one of my uncles who signed up for the Army in the early 1950s and then decided he didn't like it, deserted, and then got caught and got sent to prison for a year. In short, reading my dad's autobiography has been a revelation, and not necessarily an entirely happy one — but I digress.)

I suspect the only way it would work to go back in time is for "time" to pick the right period and milieu. Otherwise the temptation to simply return to an earlier point in my own life to be with old friends, some now gone, would be too great. And there are no do-overs. Paris in the 1920s or in the 1890s would, in fact, hold some appeal as place-times to visit, but not as place-times to live on a permanent basis. Technologically slow and backwards though I am in many ways, I would find it hard to live in a world without having so much knowledge at my fingertips. —Not to mention the wonders of word processing (having lived through the Golden Age of Typewriters, a.k.a. self-correcting Selectrics and all).

Yeah, there's a bit of irony in this whole entry, given how dedicated I am to sorting through so much of the flotsam and jetsam from my and my family's past. C'est bien la vie. I wonder if I will end up learning anything truly of value from any of it once I'm done (assuming I ever get done — although I suspect if there are things to be learned, they will pop up en route rather than present themselves as part of some kind of grand finale).

Sunday 5 January 2014

Well, scrap that. (Second try.)

(I am not happy with gandi's timeout mechanism, sigh. Just lost most of an entry when I "saved" it.)

I'd started a blog post about spending a little time last night looking for someone I knew from Pittsburgh days, finding that person (and her daughters who are roughly the same age as our oldest two)… and then bla-bla-ing about my excuses for why I probably wasn't going to contact her after all. Yadda.

And then I spent a paragraph or two talking about wading once again into the nest o' papers and coming across an old check register. This seems to have been from Mr Mo's old Heart Federal account. The first entry for the register pages that I have was for May 1, 1982, and it went more and more sporadically until early May 1983, at which point I think we got rid of it. Among the jogs to memory provided: we used to share a Sprint long-distance account with one of my old BYU roommates, and I used to do work for the Pittsburgh Oratorio Society (mostly volunteer, but apparently perhaps some paid work as well). Mr Mo and I joined the POS in fall 1982, and I certainly remember discovering what an untoward combination woolen choir robes + overheated store interior + pregnancy can be (a Christmas concert at the downtown Pittsburgh Kaufman's department store… a nurse watching saw me turn red, then white, then disappear — I managed to sit down as I passed out.)

Fun times.

Also waded a bit more into my past religious excesses. "Earnest" does not begin to describe my sincere desires for overcoming faults and imperfections… especially in such a rarified location as the Language Training Mission. I've had to decipher some of my notes that I wrote in faulty Deseret (easier to write than to read, that's for sure)! One such:

Dammit — I am being ridiculously emotional about not being allowed to call home tonight — basically because it’s my time of the month — and because I’m constipated, AND because I detest not having my own way and because I am peeved at Sister H. “because” she had to be so damned self-righteous — even though it’s easy for her to say, “Oh you have to have permission to call home”— though she will be breaking the rules tomorrow because she gets to “accidentally” see her parents tomorrow. Petty, I know — damn this period ~ “monthly marauder.”

…In retrospect, I was being far too easy on Sister H, under the circumstances, and hopefully I ended up getting to call my folks anyway. (I think the real issue was that I'd tried on Christmas Day and couldn't get through.) Stupid regimentation!

Of the many, many experiences I had while at the LTM, my body remembers the chronic constipation most of all. Ghastly. Things got better pretty much instantly as soon as I left the LTM for The Mission Field. No surprises there.

Mr Mo and I will likely go off to play snooker in a few minutes, as is our wont to do most Sunday late afternoons in Berlin. It is a heavily overcast and rainy day — it has been dark for much of it. I think I will have to drink my ampoule of 100K units of vitamin D shortly to better withstand the winter.

Time for another short foray into paperdom (paper-dumb) before we head off to the pool hall.

Saturday 4 January 2014

Projects ever looming

Everything needs attention today: the papers (mine, the landlord's, family), the laundry, the reestablishment of order in the office (ha! ha!), the shopping. And so on. I will have no difficulty avoiding working on any of the (at least) five (5!) books that I have underway, and in some cases have had underway for years now (autobiographical ones in particular):

  • Back of the House (tales of my brief stint working for the Jonathan Club in LA)
  • Song of the Righteous (my time with the So. Calif. Mormon Choir)
  • Sister Mish (yeah, yeah, yeah)
  • The Accidental Principal (a.k.a. Dying School, a.k.a. Death of an American School in France)
  • Handbook on Mormon Feminism (no real working title yet, but this will do for the moment)

It is too easy to take refuge in online jigsaw puzzling. Before that, it was online Word Search. Both of these activities fed/feed into the honing of my Finder Lady skills, I tell myself, but in reality they are an obsessive-style time-sink. It isn't just that the time I waste on them is not spent on the above-mentioned writings, but it also isn't spent on pursuing German, on pursuing a job, or on creating Art, Great Art, the Best Art… or anything else. Including trying to parlay my Finder Lady skills into some kind of real activity, though I haven't a friggly notion of what that might be.

Well, I'd best get cracking and at least take a stab at the "urgent" activities. Perhaps crossing a couple of things off of that list will lead me to spend time working on the important stuff.

… And hopefully I won't solve too many jigsaw puzzles today.

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